So this post is a little bit different to my normal topics, and it’s really based on some thoughts I’ve been having over the past few weeks.
Lots of people say that your life is over once you have children. That your life isn’t your own and you’re always having to think of someone else before yourself.
Which is partly true, but the tone in which it is said is the problem.
Before I had my baby, most of my days were filled with meaningless activities and more often than not I would be sitting at home watching TV until my then Fiancé came home to fill my time.
This might not be true for everyone, but before I had my little man I would get up late, do nothing, eat junk, go to work and maybe drink with friends on the weekend.
Once you have a child you have no choice but to get up and get going every day even if some days you really just can’t be bothered!
And in doing so my life has improved ten fold. I know my little man needs me. On a basic level he needs me to feed and water him. But children require a lot more than that to develop into happy people. They need love, fun, adventure, stimulation and a role model in their parents.
Now I have Hunter I walk more, play more, laugh more, love more, and possibly most importantly I think more.
I think about the person I am. And what I am teaching my son every day. Amongst many forms of learning, children pick up their behaviour through observation and re-enactment. In basic terms, what you do, they do. I realised that I needed to be calmer.
I realised what it meant when I heard people say ‘it’s not worth it‘. Whether is about a fight or an argument. Because it really isn’t worth it. If I got into an argument with someone now, it would have to be for a damn good reason. Because no way am I putting my child in harms way for nothing. I will teach my son to talk if he has a problem not shout.
Becoming a mother has made me re-evaluate my life goals, and strive to reach for my dream life with my family. The limits are endless.
*Disclaimer: this is my opinion, it’s cool if you don’t agree*
Let me know what you think! How did having children change your life?
Lots of Love